Letting Go

There are people who can walk away from you. And when people walk away from you, let them walk. Our destiny is never tied to anybody that left. Letting go doesn't mean giving up, but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be. Some people think it's holding on that makes someone strong. Well, sometimes it's letting go.

Sometimes, you have to let go to see if there was anything worth holding on to. Let them go, it doesn't mean that they are bad persons. It only means that their part in the story of your life is over. You've got to know when their part is over so that you won't keep trying to raise the dead. You've got to know when it's dead. Then, move on.

If you are holding on to something that is not yours and would never be yours, let it go. Just like in love, let go of someone you love. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were. When letting go of something, all you need is understanding. Understanding that while good things never last, some don't even start.

Maybe some people are not meant to be in our lives forever. Maybe some are just passing through. It is just like they come through our lives to bring us something. Perhaps a gift, a blessing or a lesson we need to learn. That's why they're here, because you'll have that gift forever.

How lucky I am to have known someone who was so hard to say goodbye to. I've learned that goodbyes will always hurt, pictures can never replace being there, memories forget the hard times, words can never replace feelings and heroes often go unsung. There is a time for departure even when there is no certain place to go. Always remember that there are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to left behind. Keep in mind, that letting go is not the end of the world. It's the beginning of a new life.

It's All About Friendship.

Each friend we have in our life represents a world in us. A world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this arrival that a new world is born. Each friend we have brings out the best in us. Our friends are one of the most important ingredients we have in this recipe of life. As the saying goes, "No Man is a failure who has FRIENDS!"

Friendship is like a building contract you sign with laughter and break with tears. A true friend is the one who knows more about you than yourself and still accepts you. Someone who is there for you when he'd rather be anywhere else. One who believes in you when you have ceased to believe in yourself.

No friendship can cross the path of our destiny without leaving some mark on it forever. Each friend we have will always leave a great impact in our lives and in our hearts. Be it positive or negative. A memory in which we are going to cherish and treasure forever.

I love my friends for what they are and who they are, not for what they have and who they pretend to be. I respect their freedoms to be themselves and appreciate every differences between their ways and mine.

GOODBYES

Come on, admit it. Some of our friends will just come and quickly go. Some would stay for a while and leave footprints in our hearts. Then, we are never ever the same again. Don't cry. Smile because it happened. We have to accept the fact that not all things are permanent. Move on. Perhaps they aren't worthy enough to be your friends.

Someone would leave. Someone always leaves. Then we would have to say goodbye to them. People never know how special someone is until they leave, but maybe sometimes its important to leave, so they are given that chance to see how special that someone really is.

THANK YOU!

To all of my friends, thank you very much for accepting me for who I am and for what I am. Thank you for holding on. Thank you for coming into my life, teaching me some lessons and helping me to figure out who am I. For the happiness, laughters and tears, Thank you very much. Hope you won't leave.

Thank You!

Before anything else, I just want to ask an apology because I wasn't able to update my blog for a week. But now, I am back again and ready to face the world again. Hehe!

It has been 3 months since my father passed away. And yet, I never had the chance to say "Thank You!" to those people who were there for me during those saddest part of my life. I may not have the chance to tell it personally but I know that you guys would know how grateful I am.

Thank you for extending all your condolences to my family. Thank you for all the things you have shared. It means a lot to me.

Thank you for cheering me up. Thank you for all your contributions and flowers. Thank you for having me as one of your friends.

Lastly, Thank you Lord for having them in my life.

A Tribute To My Mother!

It was International Women's Day yesterday. I want to dedicate this entry to my mother. I know how it is difficult to be a mother because I can see how mothers sacrifice their own happiness for their children. They always want to give their children the best. They want to give them a better life. They'll do anything just to make sure that their children would have a better future. Some may be fortunate because they have a mother who is financially stable. How about those who are not? I think it is not right to call them unfortunate just because they lack money. If you were to choose, which will you prefer? A rich mom who has no time for you? Or a not so rich mom but can give her full attention to you? For me, it won't matter on what kind of mother do I have. As long as she's always there beside me and supports me in every decision I make. That's enough.

I must admit that I am not a good son and I hate my mother sometimes, but still I love her more than anything else. I owe my life to her. Without her, I am not existing. We had so many misunderstandings, but at the end of the day my love for my mom dominates. There were times when I asked myself, what if I have different mother? Would it still be the same? I don't know. I am contented on what kind of mother I have, I love her for what she is.

I used to call my mother as a hero. Being a teacher for almost 4 decades is not a joke. I am proud of my mother. Waking up early and sleeping late at night. I know, my mom wants the best for me. She grew up in a poor family. She used to tell me stories about her childhood years. Going to school without slippers and she has to walk 4 kilometers from their home. I may not be a good son but I'll make it sure that I'll do my best and be the best.

I was looking for the letter my mom gave me during our high school retreat. Too bad, I can't find it anymore. Perhaps I misplaced it.

Let me grab this opportunity to thank those women who are part of my life and one of my inspirations in life. Thank you for being there for me and for all those advices. Thank you for believing in me and standing by me.

Chance or Choice?

What is a chance? What is a choice? What are their differences? How can you relate chances to choices and choices to chances? Well, I do not know. That's why I'm asking.

Choices are about decision-making. It involves critical thinking. Every choices you make will have an impact in your life. So before you make any choices, reflect on what will be the effect. Be it good or bad, as long as you can stand and live by it, go ahead. It's your life, it's your decision, it's your choice. You are the one who is responsible in every choices you make. Nobody else but you.

Chances are your fate and destiny. Que Sera Sera. What will be? Will be. Come what may. Always expect the unexpected. But it doesn't mean that you'll just wait what your fate instore for you. Do not let destiny control you instead let yourself control your destiny. Grab every chances, don't let it pass by especially if it would help yourself a lot.

Now, to make it more clear. Let us put chances and choices in a situation. Let us take love as an example. When you meet the right person to love at the right place and at the right time, that's what you call a chance. When you meet someone you're attracted to, that's a chance too.

Being caught that there are many people out there who are more attractive, smarter, richer than your partner and yet you decide to love your partner just the same, as what he/she is and what he/she has, that's definitely a choice. Attraction comes to us by chance but true love is truly a choice.

Think of it, fate brings people together, but its still up to us to make it happen. We may meet someone by chance, but loving and staying with that someone is still our choice.

Tagged!

I've been tagged by Nay Ube. Therefore, I have to list down my own set of five crazy things about me, myself and I.

1. I love cramming. Hell Yeah!
2. When I was in High School, I almost got suspended because of calling my classmate a bitch and so as her mom! Oops! Don't blame me for that. She started the fight.
   
3. When I was in my 3rd year in High School, I let my adviser cry in front of the class. I don't even know why she cried. I just told her that she's better off as a teacher, not as an adviser. Whoah! She overreacted.
4. I love "love songs". Haha! It certainly helps me to uplift my spirits. Hehe!
5. I always change my exam results whenever I have the chance to change it. Besides, they will never know about it unless they're going to recount it. That was way back in High School.
   

There you go. They are not that much crazy but certainly they are not the least. Anyway, I want to tag the one who reads this. Come on, post your 5 crazy things here and show to the world that you ain't normal.

Incomplete

Later this afternoon, my family attended the Sunday Mass together for the first time. My mom, my elder sister, my eldest brother, my 4 nephews (3 of which are of my sister and 1 is of my brother) and the two nannies are with me (we consider them as part of the family). It really feels great when you're with them. Seeing their smile on their faces feels good. It helps you to forget your problems even just for a moment.

On our way home, I felt sad because I would be happier if my dad is still with us. I came to realize that I have never experienced being with my family wherein we are really complete. In every occasion or instance, there is still one who is not with us.

During my graduation day in elementary, one of my brothers is not with us. During my high school graduation, my sister is not with us. Life is so unfair. I never experienced being with my whole family.I was looking some of the pictures of my family a while ago, there I saw my family complete. That's the time when I wasn't born yet. That's the time when my sister graduated as Valedictorian in elementary. As a matter of fact, we don't even have a family picture together.

Lastly, my family were not complete when my father died. It was only me, my mother and my sister who were there witnessing the last breath of my father. I guess, I have to face the fact that my family will NEVER be complete again. So you guys, always put your family as one of your top priorities (second to God). Enjoy every moment with them. Be with them and always give a time to them. Don't ignore them and show to them that you love them.

Life. Friendship. Love.

LIFE. Enjoy each day of your life . Always start your day with a smile and end it with a smile even if there's something wrong. Treat each day as if it is your last. Do everything you can do for today. Do not wait for tomorrow because today is yesterday's tomorrow. Let God always guide you in everything you for He knows what is the best for you. Offer everything to Him and always count your blessings. Share what you have and always be humble. Be thankful in everything that is happening to your life. Be it good or bad. Always be optimistic in every single thing you do. If you fail, just bounce back higher.Lastly, always express your feelings. Let other people feel what you feel.

FRIENDSHIP. They say, friends come and go. But, only few will leave footprints in your heart. You can always find a friend in anyone but only few will stay true. Your parents and siblings can be your friends. There are no criteria in having a friendship with someone. Having a friend whom you can rely on, talk to and be with is one of the greatest gems you'll have in your life. A true friend accepts you for who you are and what you are. Most especially, a true friend knows how you affect their lives. Be it in a simple way or in a special way.

LOVE. As I've said, there are no perfect people when it comes to love, only perfect moments. Everyone wants to fall inlove without getting hurt. Some are afraid to take the risk. Some prefer to be alone. Being hurt is part of the relationship, it's up to you and your partner on how you're going to take it and cope with it. In love, it won't matter who broke your heart, or how long it takes to heal. You'll get through it with the help of your friends and family. Don't find love, let love find you.

What IF?

While I was on my way home from school, I saw some kids playing along boulevard. I don't want to label them as beggars because we are all equal in the eyes of God. I was just wondering IF their parents still care for them? IF what will happen to them in the future?

What will happen to me IF I was in their shoes? What would my life would be? Definitely, it won't be the same as what kind of life I have now. But still, there's the feeling that I want to experience what kind of life do they have. I kinda have some idea on how it feels to live a life like theirs because I had the chance to mingle some of them when I was in High School. We do the "exposure thingy" then wherein we were tasked to visit families in urban areas.

I just realized that I am still fortunate because I have a better life. But kinda sad knowing that we can deny the fact that there are still who suffers from poverty. Argh!

Someday, I'll be able to help these people. I want them to finish their studies and have a better life. It's not too late though. But if it is, it's better late than never.